Loving Oneself

Well this is exciting! Topic 1 in the Food for Thought Series: Loving Yourself. The intention behind this whole series is to shed some light on seven topics that I think are extremely important to living a full and fulfilling life. 

When I told a friend of mine that I was going to be doing a series of these but was conflicted about the order, she said that if you can't love yourself, it's difficult to focus on anything else. So here we are. Topic 1.

We all have things about ourselves that we don't necessarily love however, I refuse to call them flaws. It  has this negative implication that there's something wrong with each of us, that someone else is better whether it's smarter, prettier, skinnier, wealthier-the list could go on forever. Absolutely no one is perfect so what's the point in saying any of us have flaws? I can acknowledge that we're all different and isn't that amazing-to live in a world where no two people are the exact same? 

Every single person out there has things about themselves that they don't just want to cover in glitter and flaunt to the world-THAT'S OK! That being said, there is no reason to let these things hinder your life. You feel like you suck at math or Excel? Go to tutoring or Youtube videos and work on your skills. Feel kind of chubby? Chubby is fine, unhealthy is not so great. Get in your cardio even if it's just walking the dog or biking with friends. A good life, in my opinion, is one in which you're happy, healthy, safe, and balanced. The things you legitimately can't change? Who cares! The world isn't going to stop because everything about your wasn't "perfect."

As you can probably tell from previous posts, I am so entirely fed up with what has become socially desirable in terms of appearance and demeanor. Women do not have to be "pretty little things", we do not have to smile all the time, and we do not have to have huge bubbies and curves although some of us do. It's exhausting and unnecessary to fit someone else's idea of what you should be. 

In my opinion, if you're healthy and happy it doesn't matter if you're a size 2 or a size 20. If you don't have boobs, good for you! You don't have to pack 10 sports bras for a five day trip like I do. There are benefits to being any shape and size and there is so much more in life than those two things. 

Most of you have seen Runaway Bride or at least have heard the reference about the eggs. If you haven't, the short of it is Julia Roberts changes the way she likes her eggs with every guy she dates based on what they like, along with her interests in general. I've had friends do the same over the years-whether it's their clothes, their hair, their hobbies all to ensure other people like them. It's not just girls, I've seen guys do it for their girlfriends, fraternity brothers, friends, even their parents. There's nothing wrong with becoming interested in new things however there's nothing sadder than seeing someone give up something that brings them joy for others. NEVER change the things about yourself that make you happy, that make you interesting. Never. Find friends in others that love you exactly the way you are-even the weird bits. Always remember that the kind of love and attitude you put out there is what you will get in return. Make yourself a priority, first and foremost.

Love and life devour y'all.

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