Life and Love Devoured


I realized that as much as some of you might love product reviews and all that, there are other things I'd much rather write about. Things with more substance. Things that (hopefully) stay with you. 


I recently came across a quote about love that I thought was particularly interesting-not simply because of what it said, but by whom it was said. It's not the kind of thing that you'd read that would've been written by Shakespere or in some novel about "soul mates", in the traditional, overused sense of the romantic novel word. It discussed a kind of love that is limitless. I have loved and still do, certain people in my life, in the most basic and beautiful way. You know who you are, and I am grateful to have you in my life.


"Do not think that love in order to be genuine has to be extraordinary. What we need is to love without getting tired. Be faithful in the small things, because it is in them that your strength lies."

-Mother Teresa


Mother Teresa is a woman that gave her entire life to helping others. She never, as far as we know, loved anybody like we think you should or "need to" love a man or a woman in today's society. It's unlikely anyone ever loved her like that in return, either.




She is the epitome of a tireless lover. Albanian, she spent most of her life in India helping others. I think more of us need to consider our actions, our judgement, and how we choose to love one another. 


It's really easy to use the excuse, "we just lost touch," but there is no way that at a time when 6 year olds have iPads, that losing touch is an excuse. Connectivity is typically the problem. It makes us feel like there isn't a need to actually talk to someone, get on a plane and go see the ones for which we care. Check in, when least expected, and actually give a damn about their response.You never know when that small act of kindness is what is needed most.


I don't expect us all to try and be Mother Teresa however, I do think that we have a lot to learn.


Too many people have come to expect that if you do things "right" in your life and in your relationships, you will attain this amazing, passionate, fairy tale type of love that never gets boring or old. It's simply not the case. Crazy, passionate love is fire-it's interesting. It draws you in. It's dangerous, and eventually it burns out. Life is not a fairy tale or a movie. It is unrealistic to expect it to be. About as unrealistic as thinking that I'm going to sit next to a box of doughnuts and not plow through a few (it won't happen). Once you can accept that both life and love have their ups and downs, and that not every day is going to be a big delicious doughnut, you will be far happier. A life well-lived, to me, is one in which you are able to find the beauty in darkest of corners and joy during the worst of times. 


I'm no princess and I have never needed saving, but who actually wants to be saved? The alternative is to crawl your own happy ass out of the tower, defeat the wicked witch and move on with bigger and badder things, ladies and gents. We've gotten lazy. Nobody wants to work towards their own happiness, their own success. It's all about getting as much as you can from someone else. How about giving back?


Love is about others. Love is about realizing what you can give of yourself. Love is being able to bring someone else's feelings to the forefront of your thoughts. However, love is NOT about forgetting yourself in the equation. It's about balance. Finding the light within yourself and sharing that with the world, I think, is the most beautiful act of love you can give. It is amazing how your life changes, when you realize you're not alone, when you choose to love people more fully. True love to me is pure and simple. Love others because you can. 


Be present and say what you mean. 

1 comment

  1. And I love you... one more sleep and a red eye flight until I touch down stateside from Nicaragua and back into your arms for a bit. Sooooo STOKED for girl time and road trips. Sending you toooons of loving vibes from laguna de apoyo this evening. Yes, im texting you from an inverted volcano filled with turquoise water in the middle of a forest... oh technology.

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